Oct 22, 1979. My 18th birthday.
I was standing in the hallway of our home in Germany, pulling on my parka to cycle to school. My mother approached me to wish me happy birthday. Her wish for me: that I would never have children as horrible as the one I was.
You can tell from those words that things had not been going well in my family. On the surface, we were quite privileged: nice home, education, music, travel. Emotionally, however, our family was a war zone that had been raging for generations.
I escaped to university, initially to study biology. By the early 90s, after several changes of direction, I found myself in Scotland, working with people on the margins of society: homeless individuals with severe mental illness, sex trade workers, people affected by HIV/AIDS, at-risk youth. People whose lives had been visibly devastated by trauma. I loved the work but became frustrated when I realized that all we were doing was putting band-aids on problems with much deeper roots.
That realization caused me to pivot and return to university a second time to train as a person-centered counsellor. I felt that I had finally found what I was meant to do in life and was really making a difference.

Then, life took another turn. I decided to return to Canada - where I was born - only to discover that my European qualifications were worthless there. I was not in a position to finance yet another university degree and had to earn a living. For years I took whatever work I could find while trying to find my way back to the intensive healing work I really wanted to do.
In about 2014, a friend of the family mentioned EFT to me. Being the left-brained science nerd that I am, I immediately went and looked at the research. It was promising but limited. I filed it away under "interesting, keep watching" - and promptly forgot all about it.
A few years later "tapping" came up in another conversation. I looked at the research again - and discovered that it had exploded. Over 100 solid studies proving efficacy. I was sold. Within a couple of days I had signed up for training - and I am not someone who normally makes big decisions in a hurry! The evidence was simply so convincing.
Today I combine EFT with my person-centered counseling background and lived experience with complex trauma to guide people like you through your healing journey.
For decades, I worked with people whose lives had been completely derailed by trauma. Their suffering is visible, acknowledged by society, and it gets services (however inadequate). But in recent years, I've realized that there is a group of trauma survivors that is just as underserved: high-functioning people who have learned to hide their pain so well that nobody realizes just how bad things really are under the surface. Often, they themselves don't realize that they need help, even though the trauma they carry rivals anything I saw in my crisis work. And when they finally do find the courage to do something about it, they discover that there are not enough professionals trained or willing to work with really deep trauma. I have lost track of the number of people who have told me that they had been turned away by therapists who tell them their trauma is "too severe" or "too complex."
This is what makes me furious: talented, skilled, visionary people with solutions the world desperately needs are stuck - not because their trauma is untreatable, but because they've been told it is. Meanwhile, we face climate crisis, social injustice, health inequities, and a thousand other urgent problems. The waste of human potential is staggering and completely unnecessary. We have tools that work. As of 2025 EFT has over 300 research studies proving its efficacy, including for severe, complex PTSD. That's why I made a deliberate choice about my practice.
As a solo practitioner, I can only work with a limited number of people. So, I focus my time and attention where it can have the greatest ripple effect: on people whose healing will create change far beyond our sessions together. That is my "scaling." Not hosting events for 20,000 people or running surface-level courses. It's working at depth with individuals who then go out and bring their gifts to hundreds or thousands of people in their lifetime, who in turn bring their gifts to the world.
When you heal the trauma that's getting in your way, you don't just feel better—you gain capacity to bring your vision to life. And when you can finally show up fully for your mission, your impact reaches far beyond what we do together in these sessions.
It's the leverage I'm looking for. Your healing multiplies outward.
Want to read more about why I believe healing is the key to creating lasting change? Read my thoughts on turning pain into purpose.
Beyond the Therapy Work
I live on a small farm on Vancouver Island, off the west coast of Canada, with my husband. We are Level 3 foster carers for children and youth with complex trauma - we experience daily how trauma shows up in everyday life and understand what actual healing requires beyond theory. On our farm, we breed endangered livestock breeds, a different kind of mission to preserve what's valuable and at risk of being lost.
I'm also a genealogist and family historian with a deep interest in intergenerational trauma - how patterns pass through family lines and how healing yourself can break cycles that have persisted for generations. Sometimes, understanding your family's story really helps with understanding the patterns you are living.
The farm, my animals, the natural world around me keep me grounded - this work is intense, and I couldn't do it without balance and connection to the earth.
If my story resonates with you, I'd be honored to explore how we might work together. You can learn more about how EFT sessions work here or book a free first session here to experience it for yourself.

This week’s case study: A DNA test had uncovered Acadian ancestry. J., the test taker, wanted to know whether that part of her heritage could have come down from her ancestor Samuel T. Martin, born in Charleston, SC around 1823.
The challenge: First, a bit of historical background.
Charleston was founded by the English in 1670. The initial settlement wave included wealthy "second son" planters from Barbados who brought a pre-established Caribbean plantation system with them. Administrative districts and social services were organized by Anglican parishes.
Fleeing religious persecution in France, Huguenots started arriving after 1680. The Huguenots were not typical impoverished refugees; they represented the highly educated, professional middle and upper-class elite of France - wealthy merchants, international bankers, maritime traders, and highly skilled master artisans. Recognizing the warning signs before their rights were officially revoked in 1685, wealthy Huguenot families spent years quietly liquidating their property, converting their fortunes into gold, silver, and jewelry, and smuggling these valuables out of France. The Huguenots were also pioneers in early modern international banking. Utilizing sophisticated networks of trans-European Protestant merchants, a family could deposit their capital with a trusted banker in Bordeaux or Paris and receive a physical "Bill of Exchange." Once they successfully escaped to London or Amsterdam, they cashed in these paper bills for local currency, completely bypassing French border guards. To top all this off, the Huguenot refugees were heavily supported by the English Crown. It was not purely altruistic; English monarchs viewed the influx of French wealth, intellect, and global trade connections as a massive geopolitical win that would simultaneously drain France's economy. The English Crown directly funded and chartered the ship Richmond to transport the very first wave of French Huguenots to Charleston free of charge in 1680. The Crown also guaranteed Huguenots the same generous land grants offered to English citizens - roughly 50 to 100 acres of prime Lowcountry real estate per family member or servant they brought with them. Despite early language barriers, the Huguenots assimilated rapidly and intermarried with the English elite. By 1700 there were about 1500 Huguenots in South Carolina.
Presbyterian Scots and Scots-Irish immigrants arrived in waves throughout the 18th century, establishing, amongst other things, Presbytarian churches.
Forcibly deported from Canada by the British in 1755, the Catholic Acadians arrived in Charleston as destitute, untrusted wartime prisoners. Viewed with hostility by the Protestant elite, most faced forced labor or quarantine on Sullivan's Island; the vast majority eventually left for Louisiana (becoming Cajuns). Some of the most enterprising ones even made their way back to Canada, or to France. Only a very few Acadian families remained in Charleston.
Fleeing revolution in the 1790s, white planters from Saint Domingue – which was to become Haiti – started arriving in Charleston, accompanied by free people of color (gens de couleur), and enslaved people. They brought with them French-Caribbean culture and caused a massive expansion of the local Catholic community.
Arriving primarily in the mid-18th and 19th centuries, Lutheran German and Swiss immigrants sought economic opportunity and religious freedom.
Unfortunately for our purposes, the surname “Martin” is equally common in English, French and German, so, the name alone does not allow us to even guess which of these immigrant streams Samuel belonged to. But surviving passenger lists for the six ships that transported the Acadians to Charleston tell us that at least three Acadian men named Martin landed there: Pierre Martin, with one child, Paul Martin with wife and 3 children and Jean Martin with wife and 5 children.
As always, we start with what is already known. The 1850 US census shows Samuel Martin living in St Thomas and St Denis parish in Charleston, South Carolina. He is 27 years old, so, born about 1823, a planter with $1500 worth of real estate. Living with him are 22-year-old E. J. Martin, likely his wife, two children, 51-year-old Jane Cantley and 30-year-old J. B. C. Martin.
Parish registers for St Thomas and St Denis have survived, if somewhat incomplete, and have been digitized but can for legal reasons only be viewed at a FamilySearch Center – which I did not have time to do. However, in the early 1880s the parish tasked their rector, Robert F. Clute, with transcribing and publishing what remained and was still legible of the parish registers, to which he added information gleaned from other sources including cemetery headstones. This 1884 publication can be accessed at Internet Archive.
Clute noted that marriage and baptism registers for the years 1790 through 1823 were already completely missing. Which means it was not going to be possible for me to find a Baptism for Samuel T Martin, born in 1823. However, we can find his marriage to Eliza Jane Philips on 19 Dec 1843. Sadly, the good rector did not think to include the names of the witnesses or parents in his transcript which so often are key pieces of genealogical information.
A quick search for other “Martin” entries in the parish register came up with the following:
1. There were Martins already present in the parish prior to the arrival of the Acadians
2. Only two Martin baptisms were ever registered.
One was William Henry Martin born 26 Oct 1844, baptized 11 May 1848. Parents – Samuel and Eliza.
The second one was earlier, Hamlin Martin, born in Dec 1827 to parents John and Frances Ann, baptized 17 Mar 1829.
Since Hamlin Martin’s birth was not much later than Samuel’s, could John and Frances Ann possibly be Samuel’s parents as well?
Now began the search for other documents that could shed light on Samuel’s parents. The first one I found was the 1842 will of another Samuel Martin of St Thomas and St Dennis, planter, leaving his estate to his three grandchildren, John Baptist, Samuel and Ann L. Martin. He wished to be buried in the episcopal church of St Thomas and St Dennis. As executors, he appointed his “esteemed neighbours”, John L. Poyas and Joseph Winges. This was promising. Remember the J. B. C. Martin living with Samuel and Eliza in the 1850 census? Samuel’s brother – John Baptist. The fact that the grandfather was leaving his estate to his grandchildren indicates that both parents had to have been already deceased.
In June 1850 William B. McDowell brought a suit before the Charleston Court of Ordinary Partition to sell the real estate of the late Samuel Hamlin, about 986 acres. The court summons explicitly lists among the surviving heirs: John B C Martin, Mrs Lucinda A. Winges (& Joseph Winges her husband) & Samuel Martin, children of Mrs. Frances Ann Martin, decd," legally proving their right of inheritance through their mother into the Hamlin estate. Samuel Hamlin had died in 1848. His 1846 will, which made William McDowell and Francis D. Quash his executors and also named his deceased daughter Frances Ann, was being contested. The court proceedings note that the “decedent had intimated to witness that he should not give much more of his estate to his grand children the Martins as they had treated him disrespectfully and he apprehended he had done about as much for their mother as he could for his other children”.
Frances Ann Martin, widow, had died intestate in 1834; administration of her estate had been granted to her father Samuel Hamlin.
Another court document, from 1835, showed that there had been an error in the administration of Frances Ann’s estate: it had been assumed that her estate consisted of all the property in her possession at the time of her death. Legal advice later determined that it had actually belonged to the estate of her deceased husband, John Martin, and that her estate only consisted of a third of his estate – what she was entitled to as his widow.
John Martin had also died intestate, around the same time as his wife. His father-in-law, Samuel Hamlin, was granted administration of his estate.
The inheritance led to a good deal of strife among the three siblings which unfolded as follows.
A marriage notice in the Charleston Observer of 12 Feb 1839 reads that Lucinda Ann Martin married Joseph Wienges – the same Joseph Wienges who had been one of the “esteemed neighbours” of Lucinda Ann’s grandfather Samuel Hamlin and the executor of his estate. The 1850 census has Joseph and L. A. Winges living in Kershaw, South Carolina with their children Samuel (11), James (9), Josephine (3) and an unnamed infant.
In 1844 Joseph Wienges sold his wife Lucinda’s share of the inheritance to her brother John B. C. Martin for $300.
In 1848 John B. C. Martin in turn sold his land to his brother Samuel Martin for the sum of $250.
Joseph Wienges died in 1853, leaving his wife Lucinda with 5 young children and no means of income. To make ends meet she started keeping a boarding house in Charleston. To support her, her brother Samuel promised her $300 on the understanding that this would be the release of her dower, later increasing the sum to $550. In return, Lucinda relinquished any claim on her share of her grandfather’s estate to Samuel. When Lucinda remarried in 1954, to Samuel S. Yeadon, she and her new husband sued her brother Samuel, claiming that she had never received the payment. The suit additionally claimed that the sum that had been promised to her had been insufficient anyway, given the actual value of the estate, and that her first husband, Joseph Wienges, had sold her inheritance without her consent. In his separate statement, John B. C. Martin also claimed that when he sold his share of the estate to his brother Samuel he did not understand the true value of the property and had accepted an insufficient amount of money which he had never received either.
We have established that there were three Martin siblings, Samuel, John Baptist and Lucinda Ann, whose mother Frances Ann was the daughter of Samuel Hamlin and whose paternal grandfather was Samuel Martin. We also saw that Francis Ann (Hamlin) Martin was married to John Martin and that there was a fourth child, Hamlin, who must have died young as he was not mentioned in the will of either grandfather.
J, who submitted this case, mentioned that her great-aunt had always maintained that the Martins had been “tories”, meaning that they had been on the side of the British Crown in the Revolutionary War. I couldn’t resist such an interesting piece of information and did another dive into the records. First, more history:
When the British army captured Charleston in May 1780, landowners faced a choice: lose their property or capitulate. To secure their plantations and other property, hundreds of citizens signed Oaths of British Protection.
In January 1782 the resurrected South Carolina Patriot government met at Jacksonborough. They passed the Confiscation and Amerciament Acts.
-radically active Tories were placed on Confiscation Lists to have 100% of their land seized and were sentenced to banishment.
-sympathizers who had merely taken British protection to save their wealth were placed on Amerciament Lists, which fined them a strict 12% wealth tax but allowed them to keep their land.
On December 14, 1782, the British army officially evacuated Charleston. This triggered a massive, chaotic exodus. Nearly 4,000 white Loyalists packed onto British ships in the harbor. Those on the Confiscation Lists fled permanently to Jamaica, the Bahamas, Florida, or Nova Scotia, knowing they faced immediate arrest or violence if they stayed.
Loyalist landowners who chose to stay behind had to petition the South Carolina General Assembly and seek support from their Patriot neighbours. If the Assembly accepted their petition, they had to sign a Treasury Bond, pledging a piece of real estate as collateral until they paid off their 12% amerciament fine.
The Confiscation and Amerciament lists survived and can be searched. Alas, no Charleston Martins can be found in them. This does not mean that the Martins were not Tories, it may just mean that at the time they didn’t own properties that could have been confiscated or enough wealth to be fined. Instead, less wealthy Tories faced social ostracization, extrajudicial punishments, and legal and economic disfranchisement. Many fled or moved, others used a “keeping their heads down” strategy to gradually assimilate back into society.
Further research into legal documents may yet uncover how the Martins fared during and after the Revolutionary War.
We have successfully extended the Martin family tree back two more generations. The documents show that the Martins were well established in Charleston society, with connections to Huguenot (Poyas), Scots/Irish (Cantley and McDowell), German/Swiss (Wienges), and English (Hamlin and Yeadon) friends, neighbours and relations. By the 19th century, they were significant plantation owners and worshipped in a Protestant church. All this makes it rather unlikely, though not completely impossible, that they were originally Acadian. Further research would likely allow us to extend both the Martin and Hamlin lines further back in time.